Hope you enjoy my part two video post on how to deal with anxiety and panic attacks. If you have any suggestions, comments, or questions, please feel free to post them in my comment section here or on my youtube channel!
I’ve been thinking about friendships lately and over the years since I was little, I made friends, had best friends, lost friendships like everyone does. I even ended two long term friendships with ladies who I thought we’d be best friends forever, one was my best friend (We’ll call her B) of almost twenty years, and my other so-called best friend (We’ll call her A) of almost eighteen years. There are good reasons why I couldn’t give my energy to them or be friends with them which I will discuss below.
In our lives, friends come and go of course and we always learn something from them, whether it’s what we don’t want in a friendship, or that putting all your loving energy into someone who doesn’t appreciate and/or reciprocate isn’t worth it. If you’re looking for a true friendship, or want to make sure a particular friend of yours is a “True Friend,” here are some tips and advice that may help. I’m speaking from experience. **On a side note some people like to have A LOT of friends or so called friends around them so they can feel good or popular, which is nothing wrong with that. Me personally, (again after trial and error friendships,) I’d rather have a small group of close and TRUE and LOVING friends than a huge group of FAIR WEATHER friends.
1. Is is a 50/50 friendship?
I’ve had friends where I have always have been truly supportive in their times of need whether it be me grieving with them, listening to their problems, hearing the issues of their love life, etc., and when I try to get some support or advice from them, they are either too busy to talk on the phone or whatever, or they’re so self-involved that they don’t hear me or care. I don’t go for that. A true friend always makes time for you and communicates. Even if they can’t talk at the moment, a true friend will call or text you when they can. A true friendship is not one-sided.
2. Are you ALWAYS the one to call first and make plans?
This annoys me so much. With a lot of my so-called friends, (otherwise known as acquaintances,) and past friends I’m always the one calling to make plans, even if it’s just a dinner date or to come over for a drink, etc. That’s not cool. I’ve come to the point where for my own mental state, I can’t always be the one to initiate spending time with someone. My time is just as valuable as the other person and it is so extremely rude when people don’t respect your time.
3. In times of need, are they there for you?
This is probably the most important thing of a true friendship. Is your friend there for you in serious times of need, whether it’s a death in the family, a breakup, dealing with depression, anything. True friends should always be there for each other.
4. Can they peel themselves away from their significant partner to spend one on one quality time with you?
In my twenties, I dropped a girlfriend, (the one who I had been friends with for almost eighteen years because she could not peel her self away from her boyfriend. It was ridiculous. If I wanted to have “Girl Time,” with my friend, I wasn’t allowed because he had to be there. I don’t know who’s insecurity it was, his or hers, but it pissed me off and told my friend that and that I wanted to talk about personal issues with her that I didn’t want her new boyfriend to know, and that was the last time she spoke to me. What a great friend huh? To be fair, she treats her mother like garbage and always has since I’ve known her so I should’ve expected similar treatment.
I know this was a long Sunday Coffee Chat but I thought this was a good topic and can possibly help you determine who your close and true friends are. I am very selective with the special people I allow in my friendship circle and because of that, I HAVE SOME EXTREMELY WONDERFUL SPECIAL BEST FRIENDS THAT I CAN ALWAYS COUNT ON AND WHO CAN ALWAYS COUNT ON ME. I’VE FEATURED SOME OF THEM ON MY SITE HERE IN THE PAST AS WELL.
What are your friendships like? Do you have any stories you want to share? You know I always love to hear from you guys. Just leave them in the comment section as usual. Thank you for reading another edition of Sunday Coffee Chat and a HUGE SPECIAL THANK YOU TO MY VERY WONDERFUL TRUE FRIENDS! YOU KNOW WHO YOU BEAUTIFUL SOULS ARE. WINK WINK!
An extra special thanks to my long time sister Monica Martinez for always being there for me and never judging me through all the crazy crap her and I have both been through. I’ve known her for almost ten years.
I met Emily awhile ago and we became fast friends. She runs a blog called “The Pretty and the Kitsch.” It’s about all things VINTAGE so of course I was instantly drawn to her. Since then, we chat almost every day and she is a truly kind lady with such a positive aura and energy around her. I was so flattered she wanted to interview me for her blog site and I had a lot of fun answering her questions. I’m hoping her followers and you guys as well learn a little bit more about me outside of what I write and talk about here, and what I film about on my youtube channel. I’ll be doing a feature on her soon so you all can learn more about her. In the meantime, make sure to check out her page,
Today I am absolutely thrilled to be interviewing one of my favourite humans, rockabilly pinup model Carlie Michelle of Bombshell! Carlie is a pinup model, burlesque performer, incredibly talented artist and all around bad ass woman – and she manages do it all with a wonderful sense of humour and genuine kindness. She is such an inspiration to me and I hope you all enjoy this interview! 🙂
Tell us a little bit about yourself and your blog, Bombshell!
When I first started my blog, I knew I definitely wanted it to be pinup and rock and roll inspired because those are two huge passions of mine. As my site progressed I decided I wanted to write articles, tips, reviews, etc that everyone can benefit everyone no matter what any kind of style and interests and not just people in the rockabilly/pinup lifestyle. Even though my site is still rock and roll pinup based, I don’t limit myself to only talking and writing about those two things. I like writing and posting about anything I want. It feels more natural and organic that way.
When did you first get into the vintage and rockabilly lifestyle? What was it about it that drew you to this way of living and expressing yourself?
I’ve always loved the vintage lifestyle. I grew up watching classic Hollywood films and classic burlesque performers and I always thought the style and clothing were so elegant and beautiful. I also feel happy when I watch classic films. What drew me to pinups and that lifestyle is the creativity behind it. I have an art background and love expressing myself in many forms, including fashion and wearing rockabilly/pinup styled clothing allows me to fully do that. Also I’ve always loved dancing and the first time I tried burlesque, I instantly fell in love with it. I love doing burlesque and it’s another way to express my art and creativity.
Tell us about how and why you became a pinup model. How did this journey begin for you?
I used to do different forms of modeling and doing pinup was the most fun and comfortable for me and I felt the most beautiful so I decided to just mainly do that kind of modeling. I still enjoy doing photoshoots with different themes that aren’t pinup-based but pinup shoots will always be my favorite.
What is it like being a pinup model?
Being a pinup model is wonderful. I have so much fun doing it which is the most important thing for me.
What do you love the most about it?
I think the thing I love most about doing pinup is the way it makes you feel. You feel so confident and beautiful and I love dressing up and adding some extra glamour to my life. I’ve helped do vintage hair and makeup on past shoots for other models and I enjoy seeing them love how they look and feel gorgeous as well.
What is the hardest thing about being a pinup model?
The hardest thing about modeling is making sure you work with legit, respectful, and professional people. This goes for any type of modeling. Definitely do your research on photographers and the people who organize them before you decide to do a shoot.
How has your life changed since becoming a pinup model?
The only thing that changed my life a bit is that I sometimes get recognized from other pinup and burlesque performers, photographers, etc., which is very cool. I’ve also been in more publications a lot more in the past few years. which again is really exciting for me. Besides that, my life hasn’t changed.
What would you like other women to know about the pinup/vintage/rockabilly lifestyle?
I would like women to know, especially ones who want to be pinup models, that you can do pinup shoots and/or have a rockabilly style outside of shoots at any age, shape, and size. When I’m out and about I’ve had women compliment me and my style and then they tell me “I could never be able to pull that off.” When they say that, I tell them that they can absolutely be a model pinup and adapt the style. Being a pinup girl is all about confidence and can be a very positive experience. They pinup/rockabilly is all about expressing your self, and your body and feeling gorgeous no matter what.
What would you like other women to know about the modeling industry in general and the pinup modeling industry in particular?
9. This is pretty much the same thing I said for question 4 but I can’t stress this enough. ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS PUT YOUR SAFETY FIRST! That’s the most important thing. NO SHOOT IS EVER WORTH YOU COMPROMISING YOUR SAFTEY OR DEALING WITH UNPROFESSIONAL PEOPLE!
I know being a pinup model can’t be all glamour and photo shoots, so can you tell us about a typical day in your life?
I work from home which is very nice. My typical day includes me waking up, enjoying my coffee while sitting down and watch a morning movie which is usually a horror movie (I love watching scary films first thing in the morning.). After I’m more awake, I do a little exercise which is either belly dancing drills, burlesque, During the day, I go out to do any errands or appointments first. When I get back home I work on my artwork and my writing, and sometimes film a little video on my youtube channel. My husband usually is home from work in the late afternoon, early evening so we spend our time together having dinner and watch our favorite shows or a movie and just relax together.
How would you describe your day to day style?
I would describe my style as eclectic. Even though my style is mostly vintage/pinup inspired, I don’t limit myself to only wear vintage or rockabilly clothing. I’ve always been in love with fashion since I was super young and even though fashion wasn’t my major I still took some fashion design courses at my art university and loved them. (I still have my fashion portfolio.) I dress how I want to and how I’m feeling that day. I love wearing a cute vintage clothing as well as wear classic gorgeous clothing such as my tailored suit. As long as I love and feel good about what I’m wearing, I’m happy.
Who (or what) is your personal style inspiration?
There are definitely more than one person that inspires me but my favorite is Audrey Hepburn. She is my favorite actress and is a HUGE FASHION ICON! Every thing she ever wore both in films and in her regular life was always so effortless and elegant. I have several books just dedicated to her fashion. I also get inspired by fashion magazines (pinup and regular) and have a fashion folder from ripped pages and pictures that inspires me and my looks.
Do you have a favorite vintage or modern fashion designer?
Again there are several fashion designers that I absolutely love but here are some tops. Betsey Johnson, Michael Kors, Hermes, Chanel are definitely my top favs. As far as rockabilly/ pinup brands that are my favorites include Sourpuss Clothing, Hellbunny Deluxe, Voodoo Vixen, and Pinup Girl Clothing
What are your hopes and dreams for your career as a pinup model?
I’m not sure actually. I’m just enjoying doing pinup now.
What would be your absolute dream collaboration or photoshoot?
My dream collaboration, photoshoot and youtube video, would be with Cherry Dollface. Also I would love to do a double burlesque performance with Dita Von Teese. I’ve met Dita and she is so classy and very kind.
Aside from fashion and modelling and all of that fun and wonderful stuff, what would you say are your favourite things?
My favorite things include practicing Wicca. I’m very spiritual and started Wicca since I was thirteen. Music is also another favorite of mine. Music is a must for me and I grew up in a household where we all listened to rock and roll music. My parent’s are HUGE ‘BEATLES’ fans and had a whole room with Beatle Memorabillia and I seriously thought the Fab 4 were my uncles.
I also LOVE LOVE LOVE watching movies especially HORROR FILMS! I’m a self-proclaimed HORROR WHORE.
Is there anything else you’d like us to know about you and your life?
Something’s should remain a mystery. Just kidding! (WINK WINK). I would like others to know that my family means everything to me. I love and appreciate them and their support. I also consider my close friends part of my family!
Do you have any words of advice for women who might be thinking of getting into modelling or becoming a pinup model?
Besides me talking about being safe in an earlier question, my main advice for new models is to just have confidence in yourself and what you do. Also do not let ANYONE discourage you from doing what you love to do.
Do you have any exciting plans for 2018 that you’d like to tell us about?
I’m being published in four magazines and publications which I’m very excited about. Also I have some more avant-garde photoshoots coming up. And of course working on new art series, pieces, and creations. Basically just continuing to do what I enjoy!
Where can we find you online?
On online you can find me at these places:
Blog Site: bombshell2016.blog
Facebook: Carlie Sorat
Deviant Art: https://carliemsorat.deviantart.com/
Thank you so much Carlie, for taking the time to answer my questions! It has been so much fun getting to know more about you! I wish you all the best in everything you do! ❤
I hope you all enjoyed this interview with Carlie! Isn’t she awesome? 🙂 If there is anyone you would like to see interviewed here in the future, let me know in the comments and I’ll do my best!
THANK YOU AGAIN EMILY FOR MY INTERVIEW FEATURE AND FOR BEING A WONDERFUL FRIEND!
I’m made friends with new youtube LC Flawless and she is a new sweet friend. I’m an empath and like I saw her and I are new friends on youtube and twitter and Instagram and we both separately did videos on mixing ALL our makeup highlights together and we both posted them within a day of each other which I thought was awesome. She is a sweetie. I also mention my girl Margo Indigo who a lot of you knowI love. Definitely check out LC’s latest highlight collaboration and of course check mine our below. I hope you like my vid here a lot. If you have anything questions about products or anything leave your questions in my comment section below. And thank you for watching my video here!
A few days ago I finally had my laser eye surgery that I had been wanting for awhile and I did a video to talk about my journey and the process of getting the surgery done. If you are interested and have any questions on how the procedure works of questions about anything else, leave my questions here or on my youtube vid!
Please watch my journey and know that I’m so happy I got it done and that I can see 20/20 vision!
I get compliments on my skin all the time and one of my nicknames is Snow White cause of my fair skin, black hair, and red lips. I recently met a very sweet woman walking near me in the mall and we chatted about our tattoos, how pushy some skin care vendors are and more. This sweet lady complimented me on my skin and look so I decided to share my skin care routine, Here is how I do my skincare in the morning. I decided to do a video on my youtube channel besides writing and posting here because I switch up my morning routine.
The products that I use are just suggestions to inspire you and what works can possibly work for you since these products and brands work for me. I hope this inspires you and enjoy. If you have any questions or concerns, leave a comment here below or on my youtube channel. And if you haven’t already, subscribe to my youtube channel and follow my blog here!
HERE ARE THE PRODUCTS THAT I USE AND TALK ABOUT IN THIS MORNING ROUTINE VIDEO. STAY TUNED TO MY NIGHT TIME SKINCARE ROUTINE!
Boscia-detoxifying black cleanser
Origins- ginzing refreshing scrub cleanser
Fresh-Rose Floral toner spray
Origins-ginzing refreshing eye cream
JeffreeStarCosmetics- velour lip scrub in Strawberry Gum
Stila- one step correct, correcting and brightening serum.
BobbiBrown- vitamin enriched face base
Soap&Glory- one heck of a blot primer
Smashbox- photo finish foundation primer
Sheisedo- ibuki Smart filtering smoother
LUSH- cup o coffee, face and body mask
Fan by the brand Sourpuss
Here are some NEW TIPS, TRICKS, AND…. HACKS
HERE ARE SOME NOW TIPS AND HACKS THAT I WANTED TO POST HERE AND SHARE WITH MY FRIENDS SUBSCRIBERS, AND SUPPORTERS HERE! SOME OF THESE I LEARNED WHEN I WAS A YOUNG GIRL AND WHEN I WAS OLDER I LEARNED THE BETTER ONES! WINK WINK! HERE THEY ARE:
1. THIS TRICK I DO ALL THE TIME. YOU ALL KNOW I LOVE MY 6 AND 7 INCH HEELS BUT BY THE END OF THE DAY, MY FEET SOMETIMES FEEL A BIT TIRED. MY LITTLE TRICK IS, WHEN YOU’RE READY TO LEAVE FOR THE DAY FOR WORK, BEFORE YOU LEAVE THE HOUSE, KEEP SOME COMFY SLIPPERS OR WARM FLUFFY SOCKS RIGHT BY YOUR DOOR SO THE MOMENT YOU COME HOME, KICK OFF YOUR HEELS, AND SLIP INTO YOUR COMFY FLUFFY SLIPPERS.
2. IF YOUR DEBATING GOING A NEW DRASTIC HAIR COLOR OR A CUT BUT ARE SCARED TO MAKE THE COMMITMENT, BUY A TEMPORARY HAIR COLOR TO TRY OR GET A WIG IN THE COLOR AND/OR CUT TO SEE WHAT YOU’LL LOOK LIKE. IT’S CHEAPER THAN A SALON AND IF YOU BUY A WIG, EXTENSIONS, ETC, YOU DON’T NEED TO BUY REAL HAIR ONES, JUST A GET A HALLOWEEN WIG OR A COLOR CLIP ON FROM A PLACE LIKE HOT TOPIC. IT’LL SAVE YOU A LOT OF TIME AND MONEY BEFORE YOU MAKE THE PERMANENT COMMITMENT.
3. WHEN YOU’RE TRAVELING OR AT HOME AND REALIZE YOU’RE OUT OF EYE MAKEUP REMOVER, VASELINE OR PETROLEUM JELLY WILL DO THE TRICK. I LEARNED THIS WHEN I WAS LITTLE FROM MY MOM. YOU JUST DAB OR RUB VERY VERY GENTLY ON YOUR EYE LIDS, GIVE IT A FEW SECONDS, AND THEN GENTLY PAT WITH A COTTON PAD OR A PIECE OF TISSUE TO REMOVE THE EYE MAKEUP. IT WORKS WELL ON WATERPROOF EYE MAKEUP ALSO. I STILL DO THIS WHEN I’M ON LOW ON REMOVER.
4. IF YOU SHAVE YOUR LEGS, THE BEST WAY TO DO IT IS TAKE A HOT SHOWER, OR IN MY CASE A BATH, AND WASH YOUR FACE AND BODY FIRST AND SHAVE YOUR LEGS AND UNDERARMS LAST. IN HOT WATER, YOUR HAIR FOLLICLES ARE MORE SOFT AND STAND UP MORE CAUSING A VERY VERY CLOSE AND SMOOTHER SHAVE.
5. ANOTHER THING ABOUT SHOWERING AND BATHING, THIS IS A GOOD PIECE OF ADVICE, ESPECIALLY DURING COLD WEATHER BUT I DO THIS ALL YEAR LONG. THE MOMENT YOU STEP OUT OF THE WATER, PAT DRY YOUR SELF AND THEN INSTANTLY SLATHER YOUR LOTION ALL OVER YOU BODY, ESPECIALLY IN AREAS THAT TEND TO BE DRY SUCH AS, YOUR FEET, LEGS, ELBOWS, ARMS, ETC. THEN GET DRESSED. CREAMING, (YUMMY) YOUR BODY RIGHT AWAY WILL LOCK IN THE MOST MOISTURE LEAVING YOUR SKIN FEELING SOFT AND LIKE BUTTER.
6.OK I KNOW I’VE SAID THIS A FEW TIMES IN THE PAST WITH MY PAST TIPS AND TRICKS POSTS BUT THIS GOES WITH ANOTHER EASY PRACTICE. PRACTICE YOUR NEW LOOKS, HAIR STYLES, ETC. IN YOUR FREE TIME….BUT IF YOU WEAR A LOOK OR SOMETHING HAPPENS, TO YOUR MAKEUP OR HAIR LOOK WHILE YOU’RE AT WORK OR SOME PLACE, SUCH AS YOUR HAIR DO FALLS APART, DON’T EVER EVER EVER BE EMBARRASSED. TELL PEOPLE IT’S ON PURPOSE, YOUR STARTING A NEW TREND, OR ANYTHING YOU THINK OF. ****ALWAYS EXUDE CONFIDENCE.
*This bottom image was not photographed or modeled by me.