Celebrating Yule/Winter Solstice

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Today is the first day of Yule which represents the shortest day of the year, the winter solstice and I really enjoyed celebrating today. I decorated for this season and holiday and am spending the evening with the love of my life. He is always so supportive of everything I do.

In case you’re wondering, some of the more traditional decorations for Yule include burning a Yule log, pinecones and nuts, candles (especially in the colors of gold, silver, green, and red, and more. Like I said in my previous Yule post from this morning, the holiday starts today and goes until New Year’s Day so decorate for the changing of the season if you desire. It doesn’t matter if you practice Wicca or not. You are free to celebrate anything you like! 

 Here are some of my decor from today. It’s simple but beautiful. Leave a comment if you decorate for Yule of have any questions or ideas. Sending lots of love and Happy Holidays to you all!

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Happy Yule!

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Good Morning everyone and HAPPY YULE! Yule is the Winter Solstice and today, the 21st, is the shortest day of the year. Yule starts today officially and the holiday will end on New Year’s Day. My girlfriend Suzy Owen who I’ve mentioned in the past and did a feature on is from New Zealand and is celebrating the Spring Solstice today. I plan on posting more pictures of my Yule decorations later on this evening but wanted to wish you all a Happy Winter Solstice. Enjoy the day!

Sunday Morning Coffee Chat: “How to Develop True Friendships and to Have/Keep True Friends.”

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I’ve been thinking about friendships lately and over the years since I was little, I made friends, had best friends, lost friendships like everyone does. I even ended two long term friendships with ladies who I thought we’d be best friends forever, one was my best friend (We’ll call her B) of almost twenty years, and my other so-called best friend (We’ll call her A) of almost eighteen years. There are good reasons why I couldn’t give my energy to them or be friends with them which I will discuss below.

In our lives, friends come and go of course and we always learn something from them, whether it’s what we don’t want in a friendship, or that putting all your loving energy into someone who doesn’t appreciate and/or reciprocate isn’t worth it. If you’re looking for a true friendship, or want to make sure a particular friend of yours is a “True Friend,” here are some tips and advice that may help. I’m speaking from experience. **On a side note some people like to have A LOT of friends or so called friends around them so they can feel good or popular, which is nothing wrong with that. Me personally, (again after trial and error friendships,) I’d rather have a small group of close and TRUE and LOVING friends than a huge group of FAIR WEATHER friends.

1.    Is is a 50/50 friendship?

I’ve had friends where I have always have been truly supportive in their times of need whether it be me grieving with them, listening to their problems, hearing the issues of their love life, etc., and when I try to get some support or advice from them, they are either too busy to talk on the phone or whatever, or they’re so self-involved that they don’t hear me or care. I don’t go for that. A true friend always makes time for you and communicates. Even if they can’t talk at the moment, a true friend will call or text you when they can. A true friendship is not one-sided.

2. Are you ALWAYS the one to call first and make plans?

This annoys me so much. With a lot of my so-called friends, (otherwise known as acquaintances,) and past friends I’m always the one calling to make plans, even if it’s just a dinner date or to come over for a drink, etc. That’s not cool. I’ve come to the point where for my own mental state, I can’t always be the one to initiate spending time with someone. My time is just as valuable as the other person and it is so extremely rude when people don’t respect your time.

3. In times of need, are they there for you?

This is probably the most important thing of a true friendship. Is your friend there for you in serious times of need, whether it’s a death in the family, a breakup, dealing with depression, anything. True friends should always be there for each other.

4. Can they peel themselves away from their significant partner to spend one on one quality time with you?

In my twenties, I dropped a girlfriend, (the one who I had been friends with for almost eighteen years because she could not peel her self away from her boyfriend. It was ridiculous. If I wanted to have “Girl Time,” with my friend, I wasn’t allowed because he had to be there. I don’t know who’s insecurity it was, his or hers, but it pissed me off and told my friend that and that I wanted to talk about personal issues with her that I didn’t want her new boyfriend to know, and that was the last time she spoke to me. What a great friend huh? To be fair, she treats her mother like garbage and always has since I’ve known her so I should’ve expected similar treatment.

I know this was a long Sunday Coffee Chat but I thought this was a good topic and can possibly help you determine who your close and true friends are. I am very selective with the special people I allow in my friendship circle and because of that, I HAVE SOME EXTREMELY WONDERFUL SPECIAL BEST FRIENDS THAT I CAN ALWAYS COUNT ON AND WHO CAN ALWAYS COUNT ON ME. I’VE FEATURED SOME OF THEM ON MY SITE HERE IN THE PAST AS WELL.

What are your friendships like? Do you have any stories you want to share? You know I always love to hear from you guys. Just leave them in the comment section as usual. Thank you for reading another edition of Sunday Coffee Chat and a HUGE SPECIAL THANK YOU TO MY VERY WONDERFUL TRUE FRIENDS! YOU KNOW WHO YOU BEAUTIFUL SOULS ARE. WINK WINK!

An extra special thanks to my long time sister Monica Martinez for always being there for me and never judging me through all the crazy crap her and I have both been through. I’ve known her for almost ten years.

The “FINAL COUNTDOWN” for my Halloween Witches New Years aka Samhain

I’m so excited that in two day, Halloween will be here. I’m a natural witch like my sister Suzy Owen. In three days it will be Halloween and I can’t wait. My husband and I have a list of our scary, spooky, and violent Halloween films are already to go for Halloween night! I’ll post the vids we watch on my witch’s New Year aka Samhain! I can’t wait for my favorite holiday!

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The Samhain Society

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  I’m so excited to be part of the Samhain Society! Thank you to my new girlfriend Alexandra Walden who runs her amazing blog and site, “Me and Annabel Lee,” which you definitely need to check her subscription . She helped me and welcomed me for being a member officially.  Enjoy my, “The Samhain Society” badge and the link for THE SAMHAIN SOCIETY, http://spookylittlehalloween.com/Samhain Society/. Click on the link or you can click on my badge to see the Samhain Society.  And big shoutout to my new friend to Alexandra and make sure to check out her blog and site. 😉 Oh and one more thing, I was so excited to be added to the Society list! I’m very proud of being part of the Samhain Society and love my new friends!!!

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Maleficent Makeup with Rhonda

E97AD45C-1D65-4FEF-8A52-03BA1B8A0C19   I couldn’t resist the urge to post yet another picture of my heavy metal sister Rhonda Burnett. As a new ritual, I should put a new makeup picture of  her every week. Hehehe. The reason for posting about her again, not that I need one,  is because of her incredible makeup look that turned herself into Maleficent. She looks absolutely stunning and if we lived closer I know we’d be doing our makeup together almost daily. 

  Enjoy another one of Rhonda’s wonderful makeup looks. I’m thinking of attempting this makeup job in the future. We shall see.